Nyonya wedding today can be described as a "do our best" for some serenity and glorious past of the good old days. When my daughter Uvaraani (mixed origin) preparation for their wedding, we had to take into account many factors. This because of the possibility, many Indian and Chinese cultures and traditions for their big day together. We went through the rites Indians and Chinese Nyonya with our elderly and young we were a few surprises.
Consultation ofSeniors
It 'been a great experience talking with some of the older aunts Nyonya, still remembers the good old days. Smells trigger memory leads us to consider reviving this old Nyonya or Peranakan heritage. Most of the discussion was about what can and what should not be done in this present time as Nyonya broadly, culture and people are an endangered species. ceremonial rituals for the bride is infinite.
Words like Cor Ay Char Lang (formerly people) and Kim Tong AyGee Nia (it seems today's children) as we are moving from one extreme to another. "
Olden Days Brides
In the days of our grandparents, young girls were protected and the outside world knows little. The only time they were allowed to go outside to the "Chap Goh Mei. (15 th and last Chinese New Year is to throw oranges into the sea to get in the hope of a good man).
Are dressed with the best and with an entourage of big brothers and the chaperonePrivacy hawks old aunts. You can imagine how excited they are when there is a proposal of marriage, young, enthusiastic and obedient to parents' education of their own. There is no love for fear of getting married in the wrong class or society. Nyonya families brides from China and sent their daughters to China to find the men.
These days the Straits Settlement Nyonya girls of marriageable age were taught to sew and cook. Sewing and embroidery productspersonal use. You must practice until you get right to prepare for their wedding ceremonies. And believe me, it's a long list. For her wedding, personal items, such as handkerchiefs Lacy, wardrobe, including her wedding dress. Articles in September for the wedding bedroom as pillowcases, curtains, bed sheets and furniture used in the bridal chamber.
acquire skills for
The most important thing you must learn is, beads with "Manek" (balls) and sequins, making shoes, sandalsand slippers. This is all part of the show, the bride is also taught and grew well. The future bride has prepared a set of slippers as part of dowry to be presented to the groom and his family. Even Emeldir Marcos would be in their shows his collection of beaded shoes have lost. Then must be a special pair to be worn on the third day of the wedding, the day her father comes home for the banquet for the groom and hisEntourage.
Gift ideas and opportunities
How we never got a chance at a wedding Nyonya as the girls are working girls. He had barely time to line shoes, embroidered duvets and pillows to sew, not to mention her wedding dress. A young Nyonya Nyonya assessed value as a married woman through their skills in beads, embroidery and proper education of nobles.
How do I ask my daughter if they do a virgin, which is"Chiau Tau" (wearing a traditional dress to pay homage to the ancestors of the notice of the wedding). Would throw a fit if I asked them aware of that statement is abused as their right, while in the old days, parents have every right to control their children.
Certain rites and rituals of the wedding Nyonya
Twelve days would be followed to get married with all the customs and traditions. Govern the bride for the wedding lasts a few days. Approaching wedding dayAll craft, sewing and embroidery for personal things and what you need for rooms in pairs are required.
The challenge for the care of wedding bride paired with blues at its peak. If you're a bride who is enthusiastic about the proposal received wedding everything happens, seems to be a happy event. There are times when you receive a bride, as she does not want to be forced to marry the interest of broadening their family heirloom or Kongs (clan) business.
"Quotations from Queeny Chang -Memories of a Nonya, PG 69:
They took me in our room of the Father and out of the closet, pulled out a photograph of a young man in traditional Chinese clothes wore a tight-fitting black hat. He had good qualities, but his strange clothes do not appeal to me. Sr. Artist Jin wrapped a silk scarf with a red pair of gold bracelets engraved with Chinese Characters. Referring to photo, says:
Jin Song: That 's the man I amand marry these bracelets are a sign of your commitment. Our uncle arranged this marriage three years ago when you were only thirteen.
Queeny is the father's desire that our I marry this man?
Jin Song: Little Sister, you know that when once the word is given, can not cancel it.
Queeny: But is not our father say.
Jin Song: Our father had to listen to his older brother, and also the family had done a great favor for Lim, our uncle. We thereforeshow gratitude. "
Match Maker
First of all rites and rituals are followed, a Seng Keh Mg (Matchmaker, a language with a will) must be rented. They are followed to ensure all managers around all the rites and rituals, if they are not able to tell you the consequences of not want to hear. Therefore, they advised what to do and follow Jolly good.
Things fell like the setting of dates for the ceremonies as Sang Sang Jeek gifts JeekThis day the bride's dowry. The agreement includes a bridal bed placement chamber pots, ornaments and silk curtains, oil lamps or candles to keep lit, wedding night is done.
eating a tray of sweets for the bride and groom and get to know each other. Combing Ceremony, Prayer to Jade Emperor, Chneoh Tau (ritual purification of the Virgin), ancestor worship and eat glutinous rice balls without chewing and Kooi Bin (Face Threading).
And 'theMaster of ceremonies and their role in the tea ceremony called on the old generation, until more recently. She is still there when the bride wakes up in the morning sometimes softly in my pajamas.
After all the good advice to hear from my old Nyonya, we decided to bring what is important and feasible as time needed for the job today Nyonya wedding.
This Plan Wedding Day and reality
For parents and relatives, my daughter chooses to havethe tea ceremony from Penang Nyonya Heritage Wedding Planner Michael Cheah performed. We also have a traditional select more than one hundred years, heavy embroidered wedding dress to make the tea ceremony.
At the same time, does not disappoint for Indian families, we combined both Indian and Chinese traditional Nyonya in his marriage. The day, as an experience for the bride and groom, parents and relatives.
We were happy we could arrange a marriage ancient heritage unique Nyonyamodern business.
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